As promised, we had our first date yesterday. It was, in terms of dating standards, a pretty lousy date but given that we don't know each other very well, planning something more elaborated was impossible.
I left out my house at 15:00 o'clock, and walked towards the station as I usually do. I stopped in a kiosk to buy something to drink. Because I arrived early, I stopped there to chat with the woman in charge of the kiosk. We talked mostly about politics and immigration. Then I went back to a gas station nearby, because I needed to pee. After that, I headed to the ice cream parlour where I found her waiting for me.
We ordered our ice creams (I paid for both of them) and sat on a somewhat quiet table at the back of the parlour. I felt a bit uncomfortable, and I think she was uncomfortable as well. I think I was the first to talk, and one of the first things I asked was "why are you here?". I thought she would answer "I want to save your soul" or something like it (I was prepared to fight a christian) but, to my surprise, she answered "because I like you".
I was, for a moment, speechless. Though I had thought that she accepted my offer to have an ice cream because she felt something for me, I never suspected such an straightforward answer.
The rest of the conversation from there was pretty awkward. I felt it like a job interview. We talked about what we find attractive about the other, what we want from a partner (we said the same at this point, "to get married and have children"), her religion and my atheism, our families, and other things. She confessed that she had never been kissed (and, though she didn't say it, I bet she is a virgin) and that, in fact, she never had a boyfriend. She told me (again) that she had rejected every guy that approached her, and that the few guys that she actually liked, never pay her any attention.
On one moment, she asked me what was the most "altruistic thing" that I had done. I didn't know what to answer, because I thought that "altruistic" meant "sacrificed", and that I never felt like sacrificed anything for another person. I answered that, in general, I help and give a hand whenever I can, but that, if I don't, it's because I didn't noticed it.
I finished my ice cream, but she didn't. I told her that I was devouring it because I was nervous. That wasn't completely true, though I didn't felt in control of the situation either. We talked some more after the ice creams were finished, and we left the parlour. We decided to walk a few blocks, just to keep chatting. And we did, for about 10 blocks. Then I noticed that the sun was going down, and remembered that she had told me that she wanted to get back during the day. So, we turn back.
And there, unceremoniously, I kissed her. I think that was the action that defined the date as "lousy", because it was a very weird kiss. As she never had been kissed in her life, she didn't know what to do, and she just closed her mouth and eyes. It was just a moment, less than 2 seconds, but after that she find it very difficult to talk. I bet that her heart was racing; mine wasn't. On the way back I explained her the basics of a kiss, and I told her to investigate the french kiss "for next".
We returned to the station and headed to where her bus stops. There was a row of people waiting for it and we join the row at the end. Soon, more people were behind us. I kissed her some more and again, she could say much. Then the row started to move and I, knowing that we would separate briefly, asked her if she "wanted another one". She tilted her head on a doubtful "yes" and we kiss for a third time.
Those were her first three kisses. She told me that the date was "tender". We agreed on a second date on Chinatown next week. Again, I expect more talking, and kisses. I want to go very slowly with this girl, because, if I'm correct, she is way too virgin.
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